Here are the main players in these stories:
Me. My name is Melissa. I was born in 1956.
Jonathan, my late husband. He was born in 1958 and died in 2013. We had (have? how do verb tenses work when one person is alive and the other isn't?) four children. Well, five, but that's another story.
Patrick, our firstborn. He was born in 1981.
Meg, born in 1983.
Rosie, born in 1986.
Timmy, born in 1988.